10 Things Your Wedding Guests Don’t Really Care About

10th October 2022

Let’s face it, wedding planning is stressful. There’s a million tasks that need to get done, some big & some small. The to-do list can get lengthier day by day, and everything seems to appear urgent. One thing which truly makes it more difficult is the budget. Whilst it’s the most crucial aspect of wedding planning, it’s sometimes so easy to get caught up in everything you’re being told by suppliers, what you can see on Instagram, and what’s front & centre on your Pinterest board.

It’s good to have a vision, in fact, it makes life 10x easier for you, your partner, and your suppliers; but it’s also ok to know that your vision will change along the way. This could be for a number of reasons, but the one we’re going to talk about today is when it’s down to staying in budget.

The one thing you need to remember is that your guests will be there to celebrate you and your love, and there’s a couple of things that they might not really notice as much as you think they do.

Disclaimer: your wedding is your special day, and it happens once in a lifetime, so you should also definitely spend as much as you want on exactly what you want. Here are just our top tips for you to take a step back and consider the following if you are trying to save a few pounds!

1 – Specific types of wedding favours:

We’re all for wedding favours, they’re definitely an adorable keepsake and a lovely opportunity to personalise little trinkets for your guests. The little quotes that you can place on the favours are also a great memorabilia.

Think of your guest list and think of what kind of things they’ll appreciate, and what they may not like. Whilst kids might prefer chocolates with your wedding logo, if 80% of your guests don’t eat sweet treats as much, then consider if it’s worth the personalisation expense.

READ MORE: Check out some of our top eco-friendly favours.

2 – Ceremony programs:

This ones a hit or miss, and again, it just depends on you and your crowd. If you’re the 4th family wedding of the year, your friends and family will probably know the wedding order down to a tee, so you may not need an order of the day per person.

Instead, you can consider a sign next to your seating plan or entrance sign, which is an infographic order of the day. OR even consider having fewer copies, so that your guests can pick it up and look at it whilst they have their wedding breakfast.

3 – Fresh flowers:

This is by far one of the greatest expenses of a wedding if your decorator chooses to use fresh wedding flowers throughout. Nowadays, most decorators will use very realistic faux flowers, or a good mixture of both, so it can help you keep your costs down.

Your guests aren’t really going to notice whether your friend are fresh from the crop from that morning, and if you’re quite indifferent then it’s definitely one to keep off your list.

That being said, fresh flowers on your bouquet, buttonholes, and var-mala’s are definitely a sweet tradition. Sacred creations offer a bespoke service, specifically for these.

4 – Name placecards:

If you’re having a sit down dinner, you might want to put name placecards for each of your guests, but your guests really don’t care. It’s true that it’s a nice-to-have, but if it’s not there, it’s not one of the most noticeable items on your wedding.

TBH, a table plan is enough, but adding a seating plan to your checklist is one extra task that you may not necessarily need. Think twice before choosing to spend on the time & printing costs of these.

5 – Speeches:

Controversial opinion alert! We’re not saying don’t do speeches, we’re just saying don’t do 5 speeches which are all 10 minutes long. Your guests genuinely do care about your love story, and hearing from your nearest & dearest, but they will easily lose interest if there’s an overload.

When guests start to lose interest, you can notice that they end up talking over each other, or going on their phones, or taking their own pictures in the corner. When it comes to speeches, less is more!

6 – The abundance of gift giving at Asian weddings:

Hands up if you think you live in an in-between generation where your parents got married at a time where there was a mass gift exchange at each wedding, but you’re now of the mindset that the number of gifts, relatives, and types of gifts are quite extinct.

This is definitely one which is best to discuss with your parents, and you’ll likely meet in the middle. In all honesty, gone are the days and the generations where your brother-in-law’s sister will get upset if she doesn’t get gold earrings given to her on your wedding day (!).

7 – Fancy, high centerpieces:

This is another one which is totally dependant on your vision and your decorator, but keep in mind that your guests really don’t mind, and actually might be inconvenienced by fancy, tall, high centerpieces which just disrupt their view of the happy couple.

You want to ensure your decor is as guest-friendly as possible. Whilst they don’t care whether you’ve opted for candles, or pampus grass, or geometric frames; they most definitely will care if they can’t even see whose sat opposite them!

8 – Heavily choreographed dances:

Asian weddings love a good dance battle, and we’re not saying not to have them (please do, they make for the best memories & truly get everyone involved!); but what we are saying is that you don’t need to spend £££ on a choreographed dance with twirls and spins, if you don’t want to.

The funnest aspects of the dances are the authenticity, and remembering that one of your cousins probably had one too many drinks or samosas and had to sit that one out. It’s all about the fun of it, so don’t put too much extra pressure on yourself to have an entire choreo’d schedule, unless you want it.

9 – A wedding photo slideshow:

Whilst it’s very adorable to see the growth of your relationship, from school, university or your earlier years to now, it’s also another task on your to-do list. It’s also one of the more time-consuming ones, where you need to dig out photos from years ago, only to realise that you cringe at your eyebrows and really don’t want this shown on a massive LED screen.

In addition to this, your production company will likely always tell you that there will be issues with pixelation when it comes to blowing up old pictures, and it’s very true! So some of the chosen pictures, may not even make the cut. Nowadays, it’s sweeter to opt for one or two recent good-quality pictures and have them one a 2 minute slideshow all night long.

10 – A pre-wedding photoshoot

Again, slightly controversial, as there are a number of pros to a pre-wedding photoshoot. First and foremost, it will get you comfortable with your photographer & videographer, as well as, get you comfortable in front of the camera. All of the footage can also be used on your e-invites, pictures on your LED screen, and for Instagram!

However, your guests really don’t care whether your pre-wedding shoot was shot in your local scenic park, or if you flew out to Cappadocia. This is really one of those expenses where you need to decide how important it is to you, and not worry about doing it just because it’s what you saw on Instagram recently.

So remember, make it your own and do what means the most to you, because there are some things that your guests just won’t care about.

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